Inquiring minds (read: ours) want to know:
š¶ Is your partner a volunteer cat-petter, or does the sight of fur make them sneeze?
š± Are they more Miss Hanniganāthe hell-witch from @anniemovieāor the end-of-movie Daddy Warbucks whoād adopt Annie, Oliver and the whole orphanage?
š Do they prefer their future āchildrenā with four paws, or see their ākidsā living in a tank; dog bed; in someone elseās house; or in an off-the-grid ark theyāre building?
The pets our partners were raised with often influence their adult-home preferences, and since their passion for a Lassie, Nemo or Miss Kitty of their own could range from wanting one, or five, or more animals (orā¦no pet at all, if they have no pulse), we recommend getting super clear about whether you want pets in your life before tackling the topic. That way, your partner's answer wonāt toss a monkey wrench in your budding love.
PRO-TIP QUESTIONS FOR PET-TALK INTROSPECTION:
āAre animals a do-or-die dealbreaker for how you want to build a home?Ā
āCould you be with someone who doesnāt love your dog? How ābout someone who canāt live without theirs?Ā
āHow flexible are you to observing your partner's passion for having a pet (or not) when they bring it up, and being able to have a calm and earnest convo about it?
In our experience, itās tantamount to know your partner's answers to subjects thatāll directly influence your life together (and...we think it's just as important to know your own feels about big issues before digging into Ā conversations). We call this metric a couple's #consciouscompatibility, and weāre passionate about it being THE thingāin addition to the Ā l-o-v-e thingāthat leads to longterm, BFF partnerships.
Curious about how to have the best, most wholehearted (and honest!) #crucialconversations? Weāve got a brand-spanking-new site (link in bio) where you can download our FREE guide to conscious compatibility. We worked our tushies off writing it. And we think itāll help you as it continues to help us.
Oh, andā¦
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